Compliments Count!

Did you know that giving compliments is a great relationship building tool? Giving someone a compliment is a great way to open up a conversation with someone new and give them a little boost. People are also more likely to remember you if you pay them a sincere, meaningful compliment. Interestingly, complimenting others is a great way to build YOUR self-esteem, too! Giving compliments makes you feel wonderful too, because you are honestly and directly connecting with another human being. Each time you give a compliment, you are focusing on someone’s positive traits, rather than the negative. By complimenting people on a regular basis, you will begin to see how rich and multifaceted they are! Human connections like this are far and few between in today’s fast paced, technology driven world. Complimenting others compels your brain to look at the world in a more positive and stimulating way. Who doesn’t want that?!

Here is How to Give a Great Compliment:

1.Make your compliment specific. “That top looks great on you” is more effective than, “You look nice today.” The more specific you become with your compliments, the greater it makes someone feel. Specifics make people feel like you really took the time to notice something special about them.

2.Back it up! Your compliment will become even stronger when you back it up with evidence! For example, “That tops looks great on you; it really compliments your shape!” Or “You are such a kind person; you never hesitate to help others!” Always include WHY you have thought of the compliment in the first place; it makes it that much more special!

3.Accompany the compliment with a question! This is the most important part of the compliment if you are looking to start a conversation with someone. To engage someone in conversation, try something like this, “That top looks great on you; it really compliments your shape! Would you mind sharing where you bought it? I would love to have that in my wardrobe!”

Just as important as giving a compliment is learning how to graciously receive one yourself! Don’t you hate when you give someone a compliment, and they shoot you down by saying something negative? Don’t dismiss compliments, embrace them! When you deny a compliment, you deny your own enjoyment of it, and also rebuff the person who gave it to you! Remember, that you deserve every compliment you get, because you are an amazing person! To graciously accept a compliment, you can simply say, “Thank You!” Or you can say something like, “What a nice compliment, especially coming form you!”

Here is your challenge It Works team! Start giving at LEAST five genuine compliments everyday! Start by complimenting your friends and family. Then branch out, and compliment random people on the street. In our business, we are always looking to connect with people, and what better way than by paying someone a compliment?

 By the way, have I mentioned how utterly fabulous you look today?! Just thought you should know